How To Be A Calmer Mom
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How To Be A Calmer Mom With A Toddler

May 6, 2020 / 34 Comments
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Now would I like to start this post off by saying that I am no expert on how to be a calmer mom with a toddler.

Toddlers are an absolute handful and I’m sure my toddler moms know exactly what I am talking about.

My daughter is currently 18 months and she can be complete chaos in a size 4 toddler shoe.

Toddlers are at a very unique stage in life where they are walking, talking, and can do some things on their own. But they still require a lot of attention and they can’t quite verbalize everything they are trying to say.

This can make it tough because they may know what they want, but they may not know how to say it.

The other issue that arises is the boundaries that you are trying to establish and they don’t agree with them. If your toddler is anything like mine, they are constantly testing and pushing the limits that you have.

I promise you that your toddler is not out to get you and acts like the world is ending when they don’t get their way.

Toddlers will be toddlers, but as moms, we have to try to be a more calm in order for us to be a better mom to our toddlers.

If you are interested in being a more relaxed parent, then check out these tips that I use on how to be a calmer mom with a toddler.

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How to be a calmer mom

How To Help Your Child Having A Meltdown

Before I get into my tips on how I am calmer mom with my daughter, let’s first discuss how to help your child when they are experiencing a meltdown. Because let’s face it, it is going to happen.

As I said earlier, I’m not an expert on how to be a calmer mom, but I can definitely point you in the right direction.

This is where Danielle Murphy Faris comes in.

She is a Parent-Child Coach and Infant Advocate with nearly two decades of experience in child wellness and also the creator of the HAP Method.

She has worked with dozens of families experiencing meltdowns and power struggles through positive parenting techniques which is the same parenting style I utilize as well.

Danielle created a course called the 3 Minute Meltdown Miracle that is perfect for parents who are interested in getting started in their positive parenting journey and are committed to managing their child’s meltdowns in a more efficient and effective manner.

And of course, I wouldn’t be recommending this course to you if I wasn’t already doing this myself or had tested out this method.

This course provides all the tools you need to navigate those awful meltdowns….in 3 minutes. Yes. 3 minutes.

The information that she is providing normally worth $197, but guess what?

She is lowering the price to $27!

Yes! You saw that right! $27!

And not only that, she is giving my readers an additional $5 off if they use the code JUSTJASS5 at checkout so you can save even more money!

Toddler meltdowns are normal and they are going to happen, but by utilizing this method and the techniques it provides, your days can start to look a little brighter.

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How To Be A Calmer Mom With a Toddler

Now that we have discussed how to help your child during meltdowns, let’s get into some tips on how I try to be preventative and be a calmer mom with my toddler throughout the day.

Lower Your Expectations

This is the first piece of advice I want to offer any mom who has a child entering toddlerhood.

When dealing with a toddler, I have had to learn to lower my expectations.

You honestly have to do this in general when you have a kid. There are so many things we expect and want to happen with how our toddlers behave. But, the reality is that toddlers are unpredictable.

Give yourself some grace and allow your toddler to be just that. A toddler.

We should set boundaries and make rules that keep them safe.

We should also stick to what we say and stand firm when addressing it. But the last thing I need to be constantly worrying about is why my toddler won’t do what she is told and why can’t my toddler be good in public all of the time.

Be Prepared

Most of us thrive off of a schedule.

This applies to toddlers as well. As unpredictable toddlers can be, there are noticeable patterns in their behavior such as when they start to get hungry or cranky when they are tired.

This will allow you to create a schedule and routine to have them on daily. Once you have created a daily schedule, you can then prepare for those times when they more likely to act up.

For example, when I leave the house and know that I will be gone during a time that my daughter normally eats, I make sure to have snacks packed up to curve any hunger. Snacks are good to have packed at all times.

My daughter loves all the snacks by Gerber. When she is teething, those organic teethers are the way to go and were always guaranteed to calm her down for a little bit.

They also have these baked Lil Crunchies that my daughter still loves to snack on and great to have on hand when she starts getting fussy.

You also want to be prepared as it starts getting closer to their naptime.

Be aware of the times that they are likely to get sleepy and attempt to be home or somewhere where they can unwind to get some rest.

Sleepy toddlers are the more likely to act up so in order to avoid those meltdowns, make sure you block out a time of day for rest and quiet.

Take Breaks & Get Rest

As perfect as the day may be going, toddlers are likely to act up at least once during the day.

These moments will leave you likely feeling overwhelmed and burned out. If you have dedicated times during the day for quiet time or nap time, use those moments for you to unwind as well.

As always, I advocate for taking naps during the day when they are napping if you need them. Most only think this applies when they are babies, but this can definitely be done with toddlers as well.

And when they go down at night, make sure you get some sleep as well to ensure you are rested for the following day.

Apologize When You Are Wrong

I know I am not the only one guilty of overreacting or yelling at my daughter for wanting to play when I just don’t feel like it.

We have all been there. Just because we are tired or concentrating on something else doesn’t mean that our kids deserved to be yelled at and be the recipient of our emotions.

I have done this countless times and I feel so guilty afterward every single time.

My daughter just wants her mom to play with her and here I am acting like I don’t want to be bothered.

If you catch yourself doing this too, apologize when you know you are in the wrong. Not only will you be able to forgive yourself, but you are also teaching your toddler to not take their emotions out on other people. It is a win-win!

House Chores Can Wait

There is nothing worse than picking up every toy your kid takes out only for them to take them all out again. Or the never-ending laundry that keeps piling up.

I still don’t understand how a little human can have so much laundry?

Keeping your clean home every second of the day with a toddler is just impossible. There is no way that it is going to happen.

What I do is just wait until the end of the day to do a full tidy-up.

I pick up and put away all of her toys, fold a load of laundry, and wash/load up the dishes. This has led me to feel so much calmer because by waiting until the end of the day to tidy up, I start each day fresh.

Me-Time

Lastly, in order to be a calmer mom and ultimately a better mom, you have got to carve out some time to unplug from being a mom.

You can’t completely unplug from being a mom, but you are more than just mom. Engage in some activities that you love and that refill your tank.

For myself, I love to read a good book, take a long uninterrupted shower, or work on my blog. If you are looking for some self-care ideas that will help you unwind and relax, check out this blog post below.

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Your Turn

Well that’s it everyone! These tips have been helpful in how to be a calmer mom to my daughter and I hope they can help you too. Don’t forget to get your hands on Danielle’s 3 Minute Meltdown Miracle course at that discounted rate with my coupon code JUSTJASS5 for an additional $5 off.

If you have any tips on how to be a calmer mom that you want to add to this list, leave them in the comments below. We all could benefit from this, so feel free to share! And while you are still here, check out my previous post here below. Until next time!

Love,

Just Jass

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Hi! I'm Jasmyn or "Jas" as everyone likes to call me! I'm a stay-at-home girl momma to 2 beautiful little girls and married to my wonderful husband whom I have been with for 10 years! I'm a book and tea lover and when I'm not working on my blog, you can find me sharing bits and pieces of our lives on Instagram or me strolling down the aisles of Target and DSW! I'm the mama blogger behind the blog, Just Jass, where I offer parenting advice, productivity tips, and positive mental health habits from my perspective as mama of 2. Why don't you join me and my Jassy Fam as we navigate this thing called "mom-life" together!

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