Confronting Your Fears As An Introvert

How do you even begin confronting your fears as an introvert?

According to Introvert, Dear, the definition of an introvert is someone who prefers calm, minimally stimulating environments.

When you are an introvert, your safe place resides within solitude. You thrive when there is less noise and have the tendency to remain in your head with your own thoughts.

Your thoughts are all the noise that you need.

But what happens when those thoughts start to become too loud and start to convince you that your dreams and aspirations are just that?

How do you face those fearful thoughts that seem to start sounding a lot louder than the ones that would normally motivate you?

Being an introvert myself, starting this blog scared the living crap out of me.

This blog would mean putting myself out there on the internet for people to see and that is so far out of my comfort zone that it is scary.

But here is the kicker. I wanted to start this blog months ago, but it took me 6 months to finally do it.

What held me back? One word.

Fear.

The fear of the unknown. Fear that people will not like what I have to say. Fear of what the people closest to me would say?

Most of the time fear lives right outside of our comfort zone and fear is what will keep us in our comfort zone.

Well, It’s time to start confronting your fears as an introvert, and here is how we are going to do it.

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What’s Holding You Back From Confronting Your Fears?

It is a valid question when you think about it.

What’s holding you back from confronting your fears?

Like seriously what are we so afraid of that it leaves us unable to rid our minds of fearful thoughts and face our fears head-on?

I mean don’t get me wrong.

If you encounter a deadly snake in the woods or feel like you are about to fall off a cliff that would be fatal, then please be scared.

But I’m not talking about a deadly snake or a tall cliff.

I’m talking about starting a business, moving across the country, or even falling in love.

These things won’t kill you if you were to pursue them, but yet we treat them as if they are deadly snakes that will bite us or a tall cliff that we could fall off of.

Brian Tracy says the most common fears that we experience are the fear of failure, poverty, and loss of money. And these fears cause people to avoid the risk of any kind and to reject opportunity when it is presented to them.

He even goes on to say that fear causes an almost paralysis feeling and I would have to agree. This feeling is often a lot more common in introverts.

Overcoming our fears in life is not something that is easy for anyone, but if we are tired of being stagnant, then we have to find to move.

And once you move is when you can finally start confronting your fears as an introvert.

3 Ways To Start Confronting Your Fears As An Introvert

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

The very first thing you have to do when it comes to confronting your fears as an introvert is to get out of your comfort zone.

If you are fine with living in your comfort zone, then stay there.

But if you longing for more, it is time to take that first step.

I’m not asking you to take 10 steps or 5 steps or even 2 steps.

I want you to just take one.

One simple step towards that goal or whatever your mind is set on but you feel that you are unable to accomplish.

I mentioned above like maybe starting a business or moving across the country.

And the first step can be starting a savings account to start saving for this endeavor.

In some cases, you may even have to take a step back in order to move forward.

As long as you are moving forward, that is all that matters.

The reason I say to take just one step is with just one step, you will realize that the world didn’t end because you made a move.

It kept rotating and you are just one step closer to your goals.

In fact, after you take one, you may realize that you can take another.

And next thing you know, that goal becomes reality and your looking back at your comfort zone like why was I so afraid to leave you?

Get Out of Your Head

Now, this is a hard one for my fellow introverts because we are “heady” people who overthink everything.

Our thoughts have a way of controlling our outlook on life and removing those fearful thoughts from our minds is much easier said than done.

If we tell ourselves that the task at hand is too far-fetched, then we will likely believe it.

Negative self-talk is a thing and if we let it get the best of us, we will never be able to accomplish anything.

Since we are thought-driven people, the key here is changing the tune in your head to a more positive one.

Instead of playing that sad song, you love on repeat, try listening to that upbeat one.

Positive self-talk will have much more of an effect because you are already used to listening to yourself.

Affirmations are a perfect way to begin the process of building positive self-talk.

As I mentioned above with your comfort zone, the moment we get out of our heads will be the moment we can start living in the present.

I know that the future is scary which is why the fear we make up in our heads feels so real.

Get out of your head my friend.

Get Creative

I know I’m not the only one who is guilty of scrolling on social media for hours and feeling like my brain is turning to mush from staring at the screen for so long.

It is as if the more I scroll, the more I lose my inspiration to do something with my life because I’m so focused on someone else’s life.

Now don’t get me wrong. I love social media just as much as the next person, but it does become a problem when you get off feeling worse than when you first got on.

Scrolling on social media for hours is a habit that many of us need to break because it is ultimately unproductive.

Before you check in on someone’s life, check in on yours.

What have you done today to get those creative juices flowing? Is it physically writing, crafting, painting, drawing, sewing, or even cleaning?

Cleaning may sound random, but cleaning and decluttering your space or home can do wonders for a clear head.

Getting creative allows you to tap into that place within yourself that feels joy amongst the work that you may be doing.

Any project that you decide to do will take time, but if you enjoy doing it, you won’t mind the amount of time it will take.

Your Turn

Now, let’s be real. You did not need me to tell you everything I said above. You know what you have to do or have been pondering it for a while now. It will be scary. It will be intimidating. And it could also be worthwhile. I do not know if this blog will be successful or if anything will come out of it. The only thing I do know is that it feels good to be typing out these words on this keyboard. For now, I am going to continue doing what feels good and stepping out of my comfort zone to confront my fears head-on. My only hope is you find inspiration in this post to take that step with me and that it makes you feel good to be joining in my journey. Let me know how you are confronting your fears as an introvert in the comments and while you are still here, check out my next post below. Until next time!

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Love,

Just Jass